Nolol La'aan La'aan: 3 Dumar Ayaa Wadaaga Sheekooyinkooda

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Si loo qeexo la'aanta, waa inaad bilowdaa adigoo aqoonsanaya waxa buuxinaya; si aad uga hadasho anorgasmiyada dumarka, marka hore waa inaad ka hadashaa orgaanku. Waxaan u janjeernaa inaan ka hadalno hareeraheeda, anagoo siinaya naanaysyo qurux badan: "The Big O," "Final final." Waxaa laga yaabaa in aan la yaab lahayn, ma laha qeexitaan keli ah, oo la wada oggol yahay. Caadi ahaan waa natiijada kicinta galmada, laakiin had iyo jeer maahan. Dhakhaatiirta caafimaadku waxay diiradda saaraan falcelinta jir ahaaneed ee jir-socodka dhiigga xubnaha taranka, murqaha oo adkaada iyo foosha-oo saldhig u ah orgasmka, halka dhakhaatiirta cilmu-nafsiga ay eegaan isbeddellada shucuureed iyo garashada ee la socda, sida degdegga kiimikada abaalmarinta, dopamine, maskaxda. Markay hoos u dhacdo, si kastaba ha ahaatee, sida kaliya ee si dhab ah loogu sheegi karo in haweenay leedahay kacsi waa haddii ay iyadu kuu sheegto.

"Waad ogaan doontaa marka ay dhacdo," haweenka khibrad u yeeshay orgaanku waxay si ulakac ah ula taliyaan kuwa aan qabin, sida naloogula taliyay inaan sugno caadooyinkeenna ugu horreeya-sida haddii orgasma-yadeennii ugu horreeyay ay ahaayeen dhacdooyin nagu dhici lahaa, waayo-aragnimo heli lahaa, sida hadiyad ilaahay siiyay. Laakiin, ka waran haddii orgaanku uusan imaan markii aan rabno-ama gabi ahaanba?

Kayla, oo 25 jir ah, waxay ku jirtaa xiriir galmo oo muddo dheer ah, oo ay ugu yeertay "tixgelin iyo taageero." Waligeed ma aysan gaarin - kaligeed ama lamaane. "Maskax ahaan, mar walba waxaan ahaa mid maskax furan oo ku saabsan galmada," ayay noo sheegtay. "Marwalba waan ka war hayaa oo waxaan u hamuun qabay inaan tijaabiyo, oo waxaan siigaystay tan iyo yaraantaydii, markaa wax cabudhin ah ma jiraan… isku darka labadaba."

Kayla waa mid ka mid ah qiyaasta 10 ilaa 15 boqolkiiba haweenka qaba anorgasmia, ama awood la'aanta inay gaarto orgasmka ka dib kicinta galmada "ku filan"-maahan inaan haysano hal qeexitaan "ku filan," ama, ama xitaa faham cad oo ah waxa sababa anorgasmia. (Xitaa ma hubno heerka saxnaanta ee tiradaas boqolkiiba 10 ilaa 15 ee aadka loo soo xigtay . "Waxaan dhihi lahaa malaha 90 ilaa 95 boqolkiiba haweenka la kulma, sababtoo ah waxay hayaan macluumaad khaldan ama macluumaad la'aan, ceeb galmo, runtii iskuma dayin wax badan, ama waxaa jira walaac - taasi waa mid aad u weyn." [Sheekada oo dhan, u gudub Refinery29!]

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